[Epistemic status: a quick thought that I had a minute ago.]
There are goals / desires (I want to have sex, I want to stop working, I want to eat ice cream) and there are reflexes (anger, “wasted motions”, complaining about a problem, etc.).
If you try and squash goals / desires, they will often (not always?) resurface around the side, or find some way to get met. (Why not always? What are the difference between those that do and those that don’t?) You need to bargain with them, or design outlet polices for them.
Reflexes on the other hand are strategies / motions that are more or less habitual to you. These you train or untrain.